1. You don’t have to be Jewish to be part of a Jewish family.

  2. There are lots of ways that Judaism can show up in your life. 

  3. Open communication is central to decision making, even when it's difficult.

  4. Being a human is hard, merging families is A LOT, but there is much joy to discover together!

  5. It is very stressful to choose napkin colors. Why do napkins exist?

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Did you know that nearly 60% of interfaith couples utilize a non-religious officiant to officiate their wedding? (We did the research so you don’t have to, but check out the Cohen Center for Modern Jewish Studies to learn more.) We know you have lots of reasons to choose a beloved family matriarch or your best friend from college to officiate your ceremony because they know you really well. Or maybe you don’t know any Jewish clergy or didn’t form a strong connection with the one from childhood. Or maybe your parents’ rabbi isn’t your style. Or maybe you’re not soooo sure about this Judaism stuff anyways because God? Or maybe one of you isn’t Jewish! We get it. We can talk to your parents to reassure them it will be okay. (You do have to pay us to talk to your parents!)

We want to make sure you’re prepared for life together in the days that follow. A brief scroll through instagram memes reminds us that life is a journey with lots of ups and downs. No human can always prepare for what will come our way but we think if you talk about it in advance you will be better prepared for life’s curveballs. The whole “in sickness and in health thing” is no joke. Fertility struggles, yup. Money? Remember it doesn’t fall from trees but it sure would be nice if it did. It can be easy to focus your energy on whether to have off-white tablecloths or off-off-white tablecloths for your party. We promise that investing in your relationship and future will yield dividends of meaning.


Modern JewISH Couples (MJC) supports committed couples on the pathway to partnership, marriage, and beyond. Through a series of seven essential conversations, couples connection retreats, individual consultation, and clergy training, MJC is a Jewish learning project that guides committed partners to explore the role of Judaism in their lives. The ethos of MJC expands the boundaries and barriers of Judaism to be inclusive of partners who identify as interfaith, intercultural, multiethnic, queer, atheist, or agnostic, “Jewish&”, “spiritual but not religious,” “Just Jewish,” and more. MJC provides supportive content, community and consultation that meets you where you are and helps you identify how you want to bring Judaism home. Our work is animated by the mission to continually lift up the relevance, beauty, and accessibility of Judaism as a blueprint for building and strengthening loving, enduring relationships and Jewish communal connection.


With wit and wisdom, MJC empowers couples to design Judaism into their lives on their own terms, flipping the playbook of Jewish engagement by shifting from “text meets life” to “life meets text.” Our inclusive approach centers on couples’ interests, curiosities, needs, and life stages (engagement, wedding planning, marriage, loss) and offers Judaism as the framework for exploration and connection. Our conversation guides weave the wisdom of sacred Jewish texts with poetry, song lyrics, articles, and media. When the music of Sara Bareilles (Love) meets the wisdom of Sarah Hurwitz (Discovery) meets Atul Gawande (End of Life), you and your partner will engage together in deep conversations and fun as you dream up life together.

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Founder and Executive Director

Rabbi Jen Gubitz lives in Boston and pursues a rabbinate committed to elevating Jewish wisdom's capacity to speak to our human condition. Through young adult engagement, Jewish learning and pastoral care, Jen’s welcoming vibe weaves ritual and lifecycle experiences full of music, poetry, honesty and humor. An Indiana Hoosier sports fan, Jen is a product of the Reform Jewish movement's summer camping system and a graduate of Indiana University's Borns Jewish Studies program. She was ordained in 2012 by Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion (NY) where she was a Tisch Rabbinical Fellow and wrote her thesis on Jewish death education for children. Jen has training in community organizing and recently completed GLEAN, an MBA-level entrepreneurship certificate program taught through partnership with Columbia Business School. She is a certified Prepare/Enrich instructor and currently pursuing an intensive certificate program in Family Systems Therapy with Therapy Training Boston.

Jen is the co-host of the OMfG Podcast: Jewish Wisdom for Unprecedented Times and her writing has appeared in the Boston Globe, Jewish Daily Forward, EJewishPhilanthropy, OnBeing, the Mussar Torah Commentary, the Sacred Exchange: Creating a Jewish Money Ethic, and Lilith Magazine. She previously served as Director of the Riverway Project at Temple Israel of Boston, Rabbi and Director of Congregational Learning at Temple Shir Tikva of Wayland, Massachusetts, trained in chaplaincy at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, and spent most of her summers at camp. Visit her website to learn more.

Supported by CJP